MR ADAM'S SIDE OF THE STORY (I only tried to scare her with the belt and the belt mistakenly touched her)

The News NG reached out to Samuel Olorunfemi Adams for his side of the story:

Here is what they reported;

“We got a phone call phone Mr Samuel Olorunfemi Adams asking us to take the story down as it was affecting his image, He also stated that many of his colleagues have been trying to reach him on the issue which is very embarrassing.”

Here’s an excerpt of the conversation between Mr Adams and TheNews.NG‘s correspondent Olawale Adeniyi

Mr Adams: Hello, good afternoon my name is Mr Samuel Olorunfemi Adams there’s a story on your news platform stating that I harrased a student of Uniabuja. The story is all a lie, please I need you to take it down I am innocent.

TheNews.NG: Sir, we can’t take the story down just like that, its against the ethics of balanced reporting, we need to speak to the two parties involved to ascertain that you are truely innocent. would you be willing to tell us your side of the story?

Mr Adams: Yes

TheNews.NG: Please tell us exactly what happened?

Mr Adams: On the day the incident happened, I instructed students to move the next hall to write their exam every other student moved but she refused. she stated that I was a wicked lecturer and that she’s heard a lot about me and that she was not going to move. In the course of that her phone fell and broke.

TheNews.NG: She said you broke the phone?

Mr Adams: Here’s what happened, she asked me to give her the phone and i insisted that she fill the exam malpracices booklet, she refused, she insulted my family, she said my family couldn’t afford a Blackberry phone this got me angry, so I smashed it on the ground.

TheNews.NG: Did you flog her with your belt?

Mr Adams: No I did not, I only tried to scare her with the belt and the belt mistakenly touch her. Then she jacked my collar.

TheNews.NG: Why did you insist that she fill an examination malpractices form since the offence she commited was not related to exam malpractice?

Mr Adams: You see in exam there are rules and regulations, she was given the form because she disobeyed a lecturer and it is against the school rule. I instructed her to leave the hall and go to the next hall but she refused, secondly she held my collar and it was her fellow students who rescued me from her.

TheNews.NG: But that is still not exam malpractice, why insist on an exam malpractice form?

Mr Adams: keeps mute

TheNews.NG: Peradventure you both meet in the court of law over this matter do you have any witness in your favour?

Mr Adams: I don’t have witnesses i don’t know any of the students, please I just visited your website the story is still there, when are you going to take it down?

TheNews.NG: We wont take it down until investigations into the case are concluded.

READ HOW KEMMIE WAS HARASSED BY MR ADAMS, A UNIVERSITY OF ABUJA LECTURER

Kemmie who is now based in Washington DC has launched a campaign against her former lecturer via an online petition.

Kemmie Obaditan has waived her anonymity as she fights for justice after allegedly being harassed by aUniversity of Abuja lecturer while she was a student of the school in 2011.

According to Kemi, here is what happened;
On the 11th of December 2011, I was in my second year in the University of Abuja, Gwagwalada Nigeria.
I came into school that morning to write a Chemistry examination scheduled to hold that day at 9am. I got into the exam hall at about 8:00am just in case there was going to be a change in the venue and information regarding this examination.

The exam started at the time stated and while I sat in the hall assigned by my department for her students, Mr. Samuel Olorunfemi Adams came in to speak with the invigilator on duty while the answer booklet was being shared. He requested that half of the students should follow him upstairs to the main library where his own students who, at that time, were going to write a statistics course so he can shuffle us between them. Unfortunately, I was among those who had to move up with them. When I got upstairs I had a chair and did not have a table in the exam hall, hence I decided to go get a table.

By the time I returned with the table, Mr. Samuel Olorunfemi Adams refused my entry into the exam hall. I told him I was among the students he took from the hall downstairs to join his students. He was defiant and still refused for me to enter into the examination hall. I stood outside pleading that I get my answer booklet and examination card so I can go downstairs to go write my exams but he refused. My pleas fell on deaf ears until one of my colleague was able to help me pass my exam booklet and exam card to me. While I was begging him he lost his cool and pulled out his belt from his pants and began to flog me mercilessly.

While he was flogging me, my phone dropped (Blackberry Bold 2) worth N58.000. Mr. Samuel Olorunfemi Adams picked it up and said he was going to cease (seize) it after inflicting bodily injury on me. While I stood on the stairs crying, one of my lecturers saw me and he asked what happened. I told him all that had transpired between myself and Mr. Adams. He consoled me and took me to another hall to write my exams. The exams had passed an hour already. I was able to put myself together and I wrote my exams. After my exams, I went to Mr. Adams to get my phone and he said I would have to fill up an examination malpractice form if I was going to get the phone back.

I told him I did not set my eyes on the question paper prior to the incident so I cannot fill any form. Mr. Adams told me to take a last look at my phone and he smashed it on the ground to pieces. My colleagues who witnessed the incident gasped and he made sure he gave all of them -10 marks on their script. I ran downstairs to get my brother, so I could tell him what had happened to me. He came up with me to talk to Mr. Adams, but he had already gone ahead to report me to the Dean that I held him on his collar and I told him that if he did not let me into the examination hall that I was going to fight him.

By that time, I was summoned to the Dean’s office, Mr. Adams and his supporters (lecturers) were there and the Dean never gave me a fair hearing rather she insisted I state what Mr. Adams had done to me on an examination malpractice form. I stood my ground and refused to fill out the form as I know I did not commit any malpractice. I was threatened and asked for my matriculation number by his colleagues and I was told I would never graduate from that school. That very day, I went to the National Human Rights Commission and I gave a statement and showed evidences of the scars and the pieces of my phone. Pictures were taken and Mr. Adams was summoned in after two weeks for questioning.

The following week, my Dad was in town and he accompanied me to school to speak with the Dean but she was not around. A fellow lecturer was apologizing on Mr. Adams behalf and begged my Dad to temper justice with mercy. My Dad wrote the school up copying the Vice Chancellor, Deputy Vice Chancellor and the Dean of Student Affairs that he would like them to look into my matter.

I came into school on a Monday morning and I was told to report to the Deans office for an emergency meeting. In the meeting, there was the Dean, Head of department, Head of examinations and a few other lecturers. I was still not granted a fair hearing. Instead, I was told and I quote “We know you know people, and your Dad is well connected, but if you want to graduate in this school you cannot fight your lecturer and win. You have to drop this case. I walked out with tears in my eyes and my heart was heavy with much pain. I felt the school failed me, the women in the meeting failed me even with the obvious bruises I had on my body.

Afterwards, I did agree to drop the case because I wanted to graduate. Little did I know that my misery had just begun? Every day in that school was a living hell. I was always harassed, humiliated and dehumanized by Mr. Adams and his fellow lecturers. I became the cynosure for insult every time I passed by them. From that moment, my results became a mess. They failed me on all the exams I sat for that semester.

Mr. Adams is a threat to other students in that school as he is known for extorting money illegally so he would pass them, having sexual relationships with ladies and meting out unjust punishment on young men in the department. Hence, my reason for wanting to open up this case again.

Mr. Adams, If all I have stated is wrong I would like you to come forward and speak out. Justice must prevail! You continue to fail students, if they get on your bad side. You told me nothing can be done to you and I challenge you to present your case and let’s see if you will truly walk away as a free man.

“Never be afraid to raise your voice for honesty and truth and compassion against injustice and lying and greed. If people all over the world… Would do this it would change the earth”. William Faulkner.

Culled from bella naija

LADIES BEWARE OF THIS "DATE RAPE DRUG"

 
A lady was being rushed to d hospital few days ago,according to the police report the it was assumed that the lady must have been rape and dump at the bus station .
   Although she was unable to remember the event of the previous evening when she regained consciousness , the medical test result proved she was raped and traces of FLUNITRAZEPM (Rohypnol) was also discovered  in the blood and urine test.
   FLUNITRAZEPM(ROHYPNOL) is a products of BENZODIAZEPINE .        BENZODIAZEPINE is an organic chemical substance made of two carbon rings these benzodiazepin can be used as drugs that increases the effect of the neuro transmitter G.A.B.A. The resulting drugs has sadative effect .
  It was first discoved by Loe Sternbach accidentally in 1955 and was made available in 1960
by Rocha health care and pharmaceutical company headed by Hoffman-La-Rocha who named the drug after the branch name ROHYPNOL .
  Rohypnol now known as the date rape drug is been sold commercially in the united states is right now pushing its way into Nigeria whereby increasing the rate of rape crime and the women in danger.

OLAJUMOKE FROM AGEGE BREAD SELLER TO SHIRLEYS CONFECTIONERIES BRAND AMBASSADOR.

Olajumoke's husband, Sunday Orisaguna, sharing intimate sides of Jumoke we never knew.

Olajumoke Orisaguna’s sudden rise to fame is one of Nigeria’s biggest inspirational stories and would not be complete without her husband, Sunday Orisaguna, sharing intimate sides of Jumoke we never knew.

In a recent chat with Encomium, Sunday talks about Jumoke’s personality, how they had been coping as a family before the fame and his reaction to her sudden fame.

ON HOW HE FELT ABOUT THE TURN AROUND OF THINGS

I am very happy. I never expected it. I didn’t know things will turn around for us this soon. I wasn’t expecting it. I cannot express how I feel today. I didn’t know we can get to where we are today. From the time I was born till now. It is overwhelming. I didn’t ever envisage such a great thing. I didn’t know we can ever get here.

ON WHY JUMOKE CAME TO LAGOS ALONE

I live in Ire, Osun state. We were living together there before she came over to Lagos. Ire Poly went on strike early in the year. Because of that, things were a bit slow. There were no sales. I am an artisan. I make aluminum doors and windows. She is a hairdresser.

Students patronized her a lot, but once there is strike, sales will be on a low scale. She decided to come over to Lagos and find something doing. She didn’t have it in mind to do a particular business. She just said when she comes over, she will get any profitable venture she can engage in. It was when she got to Lagos she called to tell me that she was selling bread. She left our first child, Grace at home. She said the small one will not stay because she is a baby. We communicated very well. There is no problem. We agreed she should come over.

ON HIS PLANS TO RELOCATE NOW THAT JUMOKE IS IN LAGOS

Yes, that is what we are praying for. We need to relocate. We need accommodation and every other thing. Lagos is not an easy place. We didn’t know we would get a house. We don’t know how far it is from the house and her work place. You have to consider the traffic and everything. Unless one has a personal car we can use to drive her to work so that she wouldn’t be late for work. I will go back home to bring my other daughter so that we can all come over to Lagos.

ON FEELING THREATENED NOW THAT JUMOKE IS FAMOUS AND AHEAD OF HIM

I am not afraid because when we had nothing, she was always there. If I said I needed this, she would give me. I am not afraid. If she is rich today, we both own it. I trust her for that. She has been a very good wife. I believe she will continue to be good.

 Encomium has the full interview

ACTRESS MERCY AIGBE COMES FOR THIS DAY STYLE, FOR NOT INCLUDING HER IN THE LIST OF THEIR BEST DRESSED NOLLYWOOD STARS

HMMM some celebrities have no chill at all. Last week Thursday actress Mercy Aigbe was  attacked on social media,considering the criteria she listed for her new vacancy, as if that was not enough on Sunday, the most popular fashion magazine THIS DAY STYLE published their best dressed nollywood stars, excluding the actress. See the ThisDay cover and  the note she shared on Instagram

Hey Fam….so I just came back from church and decided to check IG only for me to see plenty tags on a particular pix posted by @thisdaystyle …..I read pple’s comments asking why Mercy isn’t on the cover and at first I wanted to waka pass, but on a second thought I decided to talk about it, cos it’s been an issue dat has lingered for too long!…….I thought to myself why didn’t Mercy make the cover of @thisdaystyle best dressed list?…. Has @thisdaystyle ever featured a yoruba actor on their cover?………are yoruba movies not part of nollywood? …..is Nollywood not supposed to mean home grown Nigerian movies? …..hmmmmm I am very sure they didn’t coz, they won’t want to STAIN their cover with a ‘RAZZ’ ‘LOCAL’ yoruba actor!….Yes I am razz, Yes I am local and Yes I am a Yoruba actor!…..No I refuse to speak ur almighty English with fake British or American accent!….Because I’ll always remain true to myself!…I am ME ….Proud Benin Woman, Proud Ijesha’s wife and above all proud Nigerian. …And just in case e still dey be una like dream ‘LOCAL TI TAKE OVER’

UNBELIEVABLE! ACTRESS MERCY AIGBE RECEIVES OVER 1000 APPLICATIONS FOR HER PERSONAL ASSISTANT ROLE

NAWA FOR  NAIJA BABES OHHH. On Thursday the actress posted a vacancy for a personal assistance role on her Instagram page, minutes after her post, Nigerians began to attack her about the requirements for the vacancy, but you wont believe that even at the point of the attack they were still flooding her email address with their CV.see what she wrote after the cut.

Goodmorning Fam, Application is closed cos we got over 1,000 applications just yesterday, way above our limit .....cos it's just 1 person we are looking for, to all dose who sent their applications thank u and shortlisted candidates will be contacted soon .....Y'all have a fruitful day and may the Lord keep blessing the works of our hands IJN ..... P.s for those sending their applications to my email pls it's supposed to be done on line, but unfortunately it's now closed....thanks 

SEE WHAT NIGERIA AUTHORS SAID ABOUT SOCIAL MEDIA ADDICTION AMONG STUDENTS

Mr Abdullahi spoke at the inauguration of the new leadership of ANA in Benue State where a lecture on the effects of social media on school age children was held ahead of its literacy week.

The association holds the believe that if the trend of over dependence and addiction of social media by school age children is not curbed, the gains of school reading campaigns would soon be eroded.

The guest lecturer, Mr Sam Ogabidu also said that research has proven that over dependence on social media has negative effects like loss of neural comprehension.

Although, the national school reading campaign has been ongoing for some years now, articulating the campaign against social media addiction among school age children has not been given priority attention.

The first task set before the newly inaugurated leadership of ANA in Benue State, therefore, is to hold the school literacy and reading campaign across the state.

The new Chairman of ANA in Benue State, Charles Iornumbe, promised to increase the awareness campaign among teenagers.

culled from Channels Television

SEE REASONS WHY YOU SHOULD NEVER COUNT WOMEN EX-LOVERS

In the olden days, a young girl and boy would be betrothed from a tender age. Before the girl even gets to the end of her puberty, she would be whisked off to be his wife. That was the only romantic relationship she knew.

Fast forward hundreds of years, times have changed. Most times, we have the ability to choose our life partners ourselves. (Thank goodness)

In the process of finding a partner suitable enough to spend the rest of our lives with, we meet the wrong ones and (if we are wise ) move on.

The question then is, why does the society seem to relish the idea of counting a woman’s past partners?

That is the question that begs to be answered with the surprising uproar that greeted the new Ooni of Ife’s choice of latest bride.

No sooner had the announcement of their marriage reached the public that some “angels of remembrance” arose from nowhere to list all her past relationships with some even insisting that she was still married.

I was shocked to come across a post on a site that gleefuly announced “hot gist” on the Olori.The hot gist turned out to be a list of her past lovers along with pictures. Staring at the pictures, all I saw was a woman who has been relationships that didn’t work out.

Though the sister of the Ooni has stepped out to explain the circumstances surrounding their marriage, still, this a classical reflection of what the average woman who doesn’t marry her first lover is faced with.

I know a lady who once told me she had to, by all means, marry her abusive boyfriend. I said why, she said “o you know what people will say? That I am hoping from one man to another! Wow.

Yes that’s what happens when we resort to keeping the list of women’s past lovers in our heads and unearthing them when they start a new one.

Think about it.

Maybe it’s time we stopped counting the ex-lovers of women

Writer – Josephine Stevens

CHURCH BANS WEARING OF TOPLESS WEDDING GOWN TO CHURCH AND WEDDING RECEPTIONS.

The Anglican Arch-Diocese of Enugu has authoritatively banned wearing of topless dresses to Church weddings, gathering and administrations.

The Archbishop of the Arch-Diocese, Most Rev. Emmanuel Chukwuma, uncovered this to the News Agency of Nigeria (NAN) in Enugu on Monday.

Chukwuma said that the ban was to profit moral purity for persons, particularly ladies, who go to such capacities in the Church.

He said that the Arch-Dioceses had coordinated clerics and senior ministers to from this time forward examine wedding outfits and affirm them before the solemnization of weddings.

The priest additionally said that utilizing veil to cover topless wedding dresses would not be permitted again in Anglican Churches in Enugu.

"I have coordinated ushers and superintendents in different churches in Enugu to guarantee that no topless dressed young lady, woman or ladies goes into the Church under any pretense. "

he said the order will be in force: "Whether it is the Church wedding, gathering or some other project celebrated in the church or inside of the church premises. "

"We would team up with the governors' wives to sort out courses and workshops for stylists in the zone for them to join this campaign.

"Style creators ought to be instrumental in preventing our young ladies and moms from the propensity for wearing topless dresses, " he said.

The diocese supervisor said that the Church`s solid position against obscene dressing would check sexual harassment and provocation , which prompt prostitution and assault in the general public. (NAN)

READ THE ADVICE GENEVIEVE NNAJI GAVE HER SELF ON RELATIONSHIP AND MARRIAGE IN A RECENT INTERVIEW

In another interview with The Sun daily paper, Genevieve Nnaji shared the best guidance she would provide for herself on relationship and marriage.

Her recommendation:

1. "Never underestimate anybody."
2. “If you love someone let them know. Life is too short and we have to make every minute count.”


She likewise talked about her arrangements for a star-pressed comedy drama after the debut of her movie "road to Yesterday".

She said, "We are now taking a shot at another movie which is veering towards comedy, with greater and more well known stars. My fans ought to keep their fingers crossed; we ought to be chipping away at our next project in two or three months."
Read full interview here

SEE HOW LONG YOUR FAVORITE FOODS CAN SURVIVE IN YOUR FRIDGE AFTER YOU OPEN THEM

image by biz-insider 

That bacon you opened a weekend ago won't stay new in your fridge until the end of time. 

Indeed, there are a few rules for long you ought to keep  sustenance and beverages before they turn sour. 

To start with, ensure your fridge is set at 40 degrees Fahrenheit or below, which is the temperature prescribed by the USDA. If the mark has an "offer by" date, consume the meal accordingly. 

It's worth noting, though, that a label's “sell by” date only indicates when the product will be of “optimal quality,” according to the Natural Resources Defense Council. You can probably still safely eat something that's just past its expiration date. 

We consulted StillTasty, an online guide to shelf life, to create a list of common fridge items and their lifespan. StillTasty uses government sources like the USDA, the FDA, and the US Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, in addition to food manufacturers.

Here's how long your favourite foods can survive in your fridge after you open them.

Here's to what extent your most loved nourishments can get by in your cooler after you open them.

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Alcohol

Beer: 1 day if kept tightly covered

Champagne: 3-5 days (The champagne may go flat before then, but it will still be safe to consume.)

Wine, red and white: 3-5 days (Take red wines out of the fridge an hour before serving to bring it back to room temperature.)

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Condiments

Barbecue sauce: 4 months

Hummus: 1 week

Ketchup: 6 months

Maple syrup: indefinite 

Mayonnaise: 2-3 months after the “sell by” date

Mustard: 1 year

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Dairy

Brie cheese, sold in wrapped wedge: 1 week

Cheddar cheese, shredded or sliced, commercially packaged: 5-7 days

Dip, dairy-based: 1 week

Eggs: 3-5 weeks

Milk: 1 week after the “sell by” date

Mozzarella cheese, fresh, high moisture: 2 weeks

Parmesan cheese, commercially grated and packaged: 3 months after the “sell by” date

Yoghurt: 7-10 days after the “sell by” date

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Fruits and Vegetables

Apples: 3-4 weeks

Avocados, cut: 2-3 days (To avoid browning, squeeze a few drops of lemon or lime into the flesh and tightly wrap in plastic wrap or aluminum foil.)

Blueberries: 1-2 weeks

Broccoli: 3-5 days

Carrots: 2-3 weeks

Celery: 1-2 weeks

Grapes: 5-7 days (To avoid added moisture, don't wash the grapes until you're ready to consume them.)

Lettuce, pre-washed salad mix in bag: 3-5 days

Orange juice: 7-10 days

Peaches: 3-5 days once ripe

Raspberries and strawberries: 2-3 days

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Meat and Poultry

Bacon: 1 week

Beef, lamb, pork, and veal: 3-5 days

Ground beef and ground turkey, fresh, cooked: 3-4 days

Ground beef and ground turkey, fresh, raw: 1-2 days

Lunch meat and ham: 3-5 days

Poultry, cooked: 3-4 days

Poultry, raw: 1-2 days

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Seafood

Salmon, shrimp and Tuna (including yellow fin), fresh, cooked:3-4 days

Salmon, shrimp and Tuna (including yellow fin), fresh, raw: 1-2 days

Sushi: 1 day

by Brittany Fowler, Business Insider 

There was gentle dramatization at the Agboyi/Ketu cus­tomary court when a 35-year old lady, Basirat Alatise explicitly REFUSED that the court ought to break up their marriage, saying that the main condition for tolerating separation is if the spouse could restore her to the state he met her with the goal that she could be attractive to a man if shes wiling to marry once again.

Her 48-year-old spouse, Morufu Alatise had prior petitioned the court to break down the three-year-old marriage in light of the fact that there is no more love and in addition demolition of his property, steady embarrassment out in the open show of wickedness

Mr Morufu said that he met his wife, Basirat at a fair and he enjoyed her and decided to marry her; he met the mum who gave her endorsement and they got married. Accord­ing to him, he told the wife that he has a lady who has conceived an offspring for him prior and inquired as to whether she approved of it and the wife acknowledged. In any case, it hap­pened that the woman who conceived an offspring for him began coming to visit and at whatever point the wife sees the lady, she gets vio­lent and humiliates him out in the open to the point of arresting him and placing him in the cell.

He then encouraged the court to break down the marriage and ask the wife what he did that would warrant her capturing him constantly.

The court then asked the wife to clarify for what valid reason she continued arresting the spouse, and she nar­rated that, "When I met my spouse, he never let me know he was married. My relatives however were asking me how a man in his forties would not be hitched; that it is better we in­vestigate and know why he is not yet wedded every one of these years. It was then that we found that he as of now has a wife and when I went up against him, he said that the wife he wedded kicked the bucket. Before long we found it was a falsehood, that the wife is alive and I got to be companions with her.

"Before long, we then dis­covered that he now has an­other sweetheart he was secret­ly seeing and the woman goes to his office which is in our home to come visit him. It was extremely humiliating for me and I con­fronted him and he advised the woman to pound me. We battled and the woman tore my garments and I quickly went to report at the police headquarters and he was ar­rested and put in cell since he declined to deliver the woman who battled me however I eventual­ly safeguarded him.

"When it was the ideal opportunity for me to conceive an offspring, I went to the doctor's facility and we did output and discovered that I will have twins and after he heard that, he vanished. I called him, searched for him eve­rywhere except couldn't discover him and my mom and my rela­tives chose to bolster me. I brought forth the twins; one of the infants was wiped out and the infant kicked the bucket since we didn't have cash to purchase the medications as at the time the child expected to take the medications. Despite everything he didn't show up or demonstrate any regret that we lost a tyke. Upon the arrival of the naming service, he came and stood like an outsider. He didn't pay the healing center bill; he didn't give any cash for the naming function.

"Despite everything I excused him however regardless he conveys the new sweetheart to his office which my dad gave him. I couldn't take it any longer, so I for the most part badger him so he would realize that I am not content with his state of mind he still proceeded and had the au­dacity to say he needs separate. I will never acknowledge any separation aside from he has the ability to take me back to the position he met me before I got pregnant; give back all the cash I have spent, oth­erwise, this our marriage is un­til demise do us part."

In all the portrayal, the hus­band did not counter anything the wife said, but rather was tranquil with his head bowed.

O. Adebiyi who remained in for the president of the court said that it was clear who is hurt­ing and he called the gatherings to his chambers and deferred the case to February 3, 2016 for continuation of heari

HOW I WENT FOR A BOY FRIEND SEARCH IN LEKKI

By Naija Single Girl

I asked a close single friend to accompany me on my boyfriend hunting mission but she said she was tied up and referred another mutual friend of ours.

Let’s call the new girl Suzy.

I told my friend I was going to consider going out with Suzy on the condition that she doesn’t tell Suzy what my actual intentions were before she goes about telling people that I am always roaming Lagos looking for a man.

So Saturday evening, Suzy met me at home and we set off to The Palms at Lekki with my N4500 vex money tucked in my pocket.

I should have read the signs when we got to Obalende and she said there is no way she is going to arrive The Palms in a danfo or Keke Napep amongst all those rich people. I already had a balance of N4300 and N1500 for a cab from Obalende to The Palms seemed reasonable so I willingly paid since I was the one that dragged her out.

We barely arrived the mall when she grabbed my arm and led me to Coldstone. “I’m craving Icecream like mad,” she said.

She ordered four flavours while I watched from the corner. I have had Coldstone Icecream only twice (the best Ice-cream I have ever had in my life and a friend brought it home) but I was scared of ordering since I didn’t know the actual price before I end up washing Ice cream cones in the event I am unable to pay.

When she collected her ice-cream, she said, “OMG! This new malt flavour is so nice. NSG you need to try it!”
Before I could say the doctor said Coldstone Ice-cream is not good for my kidney, she had already ordered two scoops of malt flavour for me. There were too many people there and I didn’t want to cause a scene so I collected the ice cream with a very heavy heart…and paid with my money because Suzy was already walking away, licking hers greedily.

I have never been so miserable licking ice cream all my life.

I just kept thinking of how many plates of fanice my N1200 could have gotten me at Shoprite!

Once we were done, I told her let’s move around and window shop for a boyfriend for me.

She took me inside one boutique and spent close to an hour checking out bags and clothes. She wasted one hour of my life cos she didn’t buy anything!

When we got out, she said she didn’t have strength to move around except she eats. Before I could tell her let’s go out to the Aboki’s Place at Sandfield for indomie and egg, she grabbed my hands and led me to KFC.

She told me to reserve a seat for us and watch her bag while she ordered food. Minutes later, I saw her approaching our table with a tray containing two cartons of KFC!

She said “Ermm… your own food is N1200. I didn’t get drink for you cos I didn’t know which one you would like.”
Then she pushed one of the cartons containing two pieces of chicken and chips to my side of the table.
KFC when I was only hungry for a man?

“What is this? Did I tell you to buy me FOOD! Did I tell you I was hungry! Is this why we are here? Now I don’t even have transport to return home!” I shouted.

She said she was very sorry that she thought I was hungry too and she was going to take care of our fare home.
I took out N1200 from my bag and slid it to where she sat. The silly girl quickly took the money and put it inside her purse while I sat frowning. I was too angry to touch my food while she ate hers in relish.

I decided that I can as well eat it since the damage had already been done. I cut big slices of chicken with a handful of chips and swallowed hurriedly cos I was too angry to chew. In the process, bone got stuck in my throat.

The silly Suzy had already finished her drink, I had only N200 in my bag, no ATM card and I was too proud to beg. I couldn’t even breathe or speak well cos of the bone and thirst.

I told her we needed to get home ASAP but she said I should chill for thirty minutes that she had texted her boyfriend’ to come pick us because a heavy rain had began to fall.

I thought of the major reason I was there and how to make the most of my thirty minutes but the rain had chased all the Lekki bachelors out of the mall. I was almost shedding tears, I just spent N4,500 for nothing!

Eventually, Suzy’s boyfriend showed up! One igbo boy that had permed the life out of his hair.

We all went to sit at the general cafeteria. Both of them were engaging in PDA and discussing relationship people problems.

The silly boy could not even offer to buy me water to flush down the bone in my throat. I took out my phone and started playing candy crush until my phone died.

Time was about 9pm and neither of them said anything about us leaving the mall…and there I was, almost dying of thirst.

He turned to Suzy and said, “Your friend has been so quiet. Why?”

What is an angry single girl supposed to contribute to relationship people discussion?
Why won’t I be quiet when a bone was choking my throat?

Why won’t I be quiet when his girlfriend would rather use all her strength to ‘baby, I love you’ her boyfriend rather than help me hunt for my own boyfriend? I just told them I am sleepy and I didn’t come here to count stars in the mall.

That was when both of them finally got up. I got home around 10:35pm.

What a stupid weekend!

WHAT STELLA DAMASUS SAID ABOUT THE GENDER EQUALITY BILL WILL SHOCK YOU.

Nollywood performing artist Stella Damasus has disclosed her feeling about the dismissal of the Gender and Equality Opportunity Bill by the Senate, she likewise has a word for ladies who just rage on social media however never roll up their sleeves to battle against treachery. Some concur with her, some don't!

SEE THE POST SHE WROTE ON HER BLOG BELOW;

I woke up this morning to a tweet from my sweet friend and sister Kate Henshaw. The Nigerian Senate had voted against the Gender & Equality Opportunity Bill. If you are reading this and you have no clue what what the bill is about, Google it and educate yourself before you continue this.

I was quick to respond to Kate, expressing my disgust at the action of the Senators elected into power, hoping they would make the right choices for the people who elected them to have a better nation.

Over the next hour, thousands of people started sending me tweets asking me to continue the fight and speak to the Senators and urging me to stay on the matter and all what not. One person said.. “You were very vocal in the #FreeEse campaign and we got results. Get involved now for results”.

I must say that I am humbled by these words but “I did not FREE ESE”, I only gave my voice to a cause to support a family that identified the fact that they had a problem and were willing to go to any length to get it solved. They needed the word to be out there and I supported. I did not have boots on ground personally to do anything, but they got up, they moved and to God’s glory we got results. My point is, Ese’s family did not start and stop their noise on Twitter and Facebook…they got up and moved! Also, a big thank you to people on ground who took physical action.

How does this apply to this issue of the Senators? Here we are again on Social Media screaming at the top of our voices (or with the speed of our fingers) seated in the comfort of our homes yelling at people who are flying around in private planes and don’t care about what in the world we are shouting about. The don’t feel any pressure because they don’t exist or live in the social media world where we spend our time fighting virtual battles. We are quick to come out and scream online but nobody wants to get up and be the scape goat.

A big shout out to my darling Kate Henshaw who has never been afraid to take anybody on, face to face or via social media as regards National and Social reformation issues . Much respect to you my sister. Where are the others who have the platform, status, fans, voice and the connections to pull global media and call these shameless men to order?

Oh! I’m sorry! Nowhere to be found right. This fight right here is not the place to showcase pictures of trips around the world, designer clothes & shoes, luxurious homes, academic achievements, awards, paparazzi, applause and self glorification so only the non-high fliers like Stella Damasus & Kate Henshaw should be sticking out their necks while others sit on the sidelines and sip on their bottles of champagne, watching the drama unfold. They look the other way because nobody wants to offend the senators that will probably be available to attend their events, premieres and launch of foundations; and possibly make huge donations.

I guess what people are doing is PICKING THEIR FIGHTS, which is a lesson I am learning these days.

A few years ago, I took Senator Yerima on about the Child Marriage issue and I was left alone to deal with the windfall of that episode. Some said I was seeking attention, others said I was jobless and was trying to get back in the good books of people. That didn’t stop me. When the Chibok girls were kidnapped, I called out our First Lady at that time, asking questions about the funds allocated by the US government to fight terrorism! It was reported by some media houses in Africa that the US government was paying me to stir up propaganda. No problem! I spoke publicly FOR MY COUNTRY but I suffered silently and bore the consequences alone.

When my property in Abuja got burnt, what did the media say – IT WAS ALL MADE UP!

Why on earth should I keep sticking my neck out when the women in the country we call our nation are not interested in getting their hands dirty and doing the work. All the big female stars and politicians are cruising in big cars and living in their big houses, fully aware that this bill has no effect on them whatsoever so why should they bother about sticking out their necks. Their kids wont be given way as young brides. They own the homes they live in so no in-law is coming to drag it with them if anything wrong happens to their husbands. They are not waiting to inherit anything from their husbands because they are well sorted out, so how on earth does this affect them? Does this bill add more items in their walk-in closets? I guess Nigerian women are not ready to get up and take a stand so why should a couple of us just break our necks over an issue that we as NIGERIAN WOMEN are not ready to FIGHT & STAND FOR?

Mothers, sisters, daughters, actresses, singers, market women, female bankers, female politicians and every other woman reading this; the choice is yours. Sit down and be ranting on Twitter. Pour out your vexation on Facebook. Thats where it will end. When the markets are closed. When the banks stay shut. When the schools stay closed. When the men don’t get the loving at night! When the WOMEN GO ON STRIKE, maybe the men will be forced to do what must be done.

Liberia did not get liberated through Twitter and Facebook. The women stood up and took a stand.

I live in America with my children and I can guarantee you that this bill, passed or not, will have no effect on me directly in any way shape or form but the truth is, when we all choose to turn away, What kind of country are we leaving for the generation coming behind?

Whats the point in all of this. I live in America and I am still speaking up. What happened to all the big shots living in Nigeria who have the voices and are LOOKING THE OTHER WAY?

Lest I forget, it is very important that I say this…. SHAME ON THE SENATORS WHO VOTED AGAINST THIS BILL.